"...this is MY relationship???...ISN'T it???..."

I'm not in a romantic relationship at the moment, but I know what it feels like to have had friends be all up in and THROUGH me and my "man"..."boo"...or WHOEVER's business. Also, I'm not ashamed to admit that I at once have been one of those "friends" to overly concern herself with her girl's romantic relationships. So needless to say, I have been on BOTH sides of the fence when it comes to this.  

I guess the purpose of this entry is to elaborate on what we ALL already know...it's NOT a good look to meddle in your friends' relationships. Not only does this cause a person to second guess the person they're in a relationship with when it's not even called for, but it also makes the nosey friend look lonely with nothing else better to do besides be overly concerned with YOUR life. If their opinions are taken to heart, nosey friends have the potential to be the #1 downfall of a relationship. I understand that they may be genuinely concerned for their friend's well being, but they have to be careful NOT to cross that line between concern and straight up "nosiness". 

I recently learned that if a friend is not benefiting whatsoever from concern about their relationship, then it's best to just back off...totally and completely. When it all falls down...they're grown...you can't control what they do. You shouldn't want to. All you can do is give your opinion of the situation (ONLY if they ask for it), hope that they take it into consideration, and keep it moving. Hopefully, things will work out for your girl/boy's relationship; but if they don't, just do your best to be a good friend in their time of need. 

To those who are dealing with "meddling friends"...my advice to you is to assertively let your friends know that you don't appreciate what they're doing. Also, recognize that your friends most likely have a biased view of what's going on and that you don't need to base how you treat your significant other off anything OTHER than clear cut facts. 

A romantic relationship is a connection between you and your man/woman...NOT between you, your man/woman, and your friends. Take that into consideration the next time you to make a big decision based off what you've heard from other people...even if those "other people" are your friends...

--Tania AKA Nia Janei...THE Prototype

Relationships: How Long is Long Enough?

If you're like me me, you have relatively low patience when it comes to certain things. For example, when the light turns green I'll give the person in front of me a certain amount of time to put the "pedal to the medal" before I'm laying on my horn and yelling "Go the HELL ON!!!" lol.

I think the the same same view should be applied to relationships, well (not the yelling part) but you know what I mean lol.  I was asked by a friend, "How long is TOO long to wait on a guy who isn't picking up my hints that I want to take it to the next level?"

Okay, like I mentioned before, I have little patience for what I feel is "bullshit". If a person is in the "talking" stage of their relationship with their partner and they've been there for what seems to THEM longer than necessary, then MOST LIKELY that other person is stringing him/her along. Point, blank, and simple. Now I can't speak for others as to "how long is too long" to wait...that person just needs to follow their own heart on that issue because THEY are the one dealing with it.

In conclusion, YOU have to decide whether you have the time and patience to wait for your significant other to "come around"...OR, you can confront that person head on about what you're feeling. From that point, you can take their answers at face value, good or bad, and decide from there. Most people reading this are too young to be "stuck on stupid". So, if you don't like what you hear, your best bet is to keep it movin...that is all.

-Tania AKA Nia Janei...THE Prototype