Why I HATE the term "Wifey"....

So many people, especially young people, use the term "wifey" on a day to day basis. Most see it as a positive term, but, I don't. "Wifey" is just another word for "main". It irks me to see how some women in relationships actually work toward a man deeming them as his "wifey". I just see it as another way for some guys to categorize women in ways that will make it easier for them to continue doing the dirt that they do. Think about it. A woman becomes open to man in relationship through her ears, you know...through the things that a guy tells her. Most guys are highly aware of this. 


A man knows that calling a chick his "wifey" is probably the door that opens her up to him, because him doing so sort of gives her a sense of how important she is to him in that relationship. Most cases, where there's a "wifey", there is a "sideline hoe"....or two lol. I guess what I'm trying to say is, I don't like the word "wifey" because it implies that that woman may not the only woman that guy is involved with. It's like a guy telling a girl that she's his "#1"...that's NOT a good thing. Personally, I don't want to be any guy's #1...I want to be his ONLY one. I simply won't accept a man calling me his "wifey".  At that point, I'd HAVE to let him know, "No. I'm NOT your wifey. I enjoy being with you, and hopefully if things continue to progress between us...maybe one day I can be your WIFE." 


To the ladies who may be reading this, it's all about having respect for yourself. Don't limit yourself to being someone's #1 (wifey), when you can one day be someone's ONLY one. That wifey sh*t is for the birds and basic b*tches. I'm creme de la creme honey...are YOU? :). 
--Tania AKA Nia Janei...THE Prototype

The "Dime a Dozen" Theory

I was asked to discuss the "Dime a Dozen" theory. According to www.usingenglish.com, if something is "a dime a dozen", it is extremely common, possibly too common. This saying is looked at the same way in society. Someone being referred to as coming “a dime a dozen” is NOT a good thing, especially since every person would like to think of himself or herself as being “one in a million”. The saying is used in many contexts, but I'm going to talk about it in accordance to relationships. Generally, there's approximately 2-3 times as many women in the population as men. The statistics get even worse when it comes to the Black population, with a great deal of our men in prison or dead. 

The previously mentioned may be grim to think about, but lets look at it in terms of economics. The less of a product there is on a market, the higher the demand for that product (men...specifically GOOD men). Well with women, the very opposite is the case. Men know that women outnumber them to a certain extent and some of them take full advantage of this fact. Some men look at like, “Why settle down with ONE woman, no matter HOW good she may or may not be, when there are SO MANY more woman out there just waiting to be blessed by my attention and/or presence.” Lol. Yes, I may be joking a little bit here, but this is NOT far from the actual mindset of a lot guys out there. I'm not trying to put ALL guys out there in a "box", but lets be REAL. This IS the case for the most part. 

I’m only speaking from personal experience and stories I’ve heard from other people.  Many people, not only guys but women too, use this as reasoning to cheat or do whatever other type of “dirt” they do. What one woman/man won’t do, ANOTHER woman/man will. Think about it. If people, specifically men, didn’t know there was a surplus of the opposite sex out there (many of whom are willing and waiting to do whatever they want) they’d maybe try a little harder to MAKE things work in their current romantic relationships. Instead, I believe this saying, “a dime a dozen” is used as a cop out for people to go and do whatever with WHOMever they please. My opinion…but do me favor and just take a second to think about this...:). 

-Tania AKA Nia Janei...THE Prototype

Flavors: Part 2

You know I couldn't forget about my BEAUTIFUL Black men. I would be doing myself, and all my readers, a disservice in doing so lol. With THAT being said, THIS post is dedicated to all the different shades of beautiful Black men. *Disclaimer: I posted pictures of only celebrities mostly because their pictures are the most accessible. Enjoy! :)

Denzel Washington

J. Cole

John Legend

Lamman Rucker

Larenz Tate

Chris Brown

Tank

T.I. aka Tip

Usher

Michael Ealy

Tyrese

Will Smith

Trey Songz

 Maxwell

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I LOVE MY Black men. 

-Tania AKA Nia Janei...THE Prototype

Flavors: Part 1...

This post is dedicated to all the different shades of beautiful Black women. *Disclaimer: I posted pictures of only celebrities mostly because their pictures are the most accessible. Enjoy! :)

Lauryn Hill

Nia Long

Lauren London

Kelly Rowland

Sanaa Lathan

Jurnee Smollett

Eve

Kenya Moore

Jennifer Freeman

Kerry Washington

Keyshia Cole

Lisaraye

Letoya Luckett

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MY Black...is BEAUTIFUL...

-Tania AKA Nia Janei...THE Prototype

Forgotten Hue

Chocolate. Mahogany. Chestnut. Mocha. Cocoa. Caramel. Nestle. Bronze. Hazel. Tawny. Ginger.....BROWN skin. 

I could go on forever trying paint a picture of you, but you're indescribable. The essence of you is lost in translation. Kissed by the sun; your beauty is incomprehensible. 

The LOST subset of BLACK beauty, the forgotten hue. OVERlooked witness caught between a battle of the two extremes...forever in between. Yet still [POTENT] to say the least.

Skin so rich, soft...and smooth to the touch. I get caught up...in you. I'll NEVER get enough...endlessly yours...

---Lover of BROWN skin...

-Tania AKA Nia Janei...THE Prototype

Your FRIENDship card has been DENIED...

Too many people, including myself have used the term "friend" too lightly. A friend is a person who is there for one he/she cares about through thick and thin. They are people who overlook petty differences that may arise for the benefit of the friendship. Just because you hang out with people and enjoy their company on a regular basis does NOT make them your "friends". Lets be real...they are your ASSOCIATES. Get your mind right and STOP giving access to your heart and mind to any and EVERYbody. Truth is, most people you'll encounter in life won't TRULY deserve it. Learn to "filter".

THIS video explains it all (skip to 2:08) : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Zvz9J5o4Mc

--Tania aka Nia Janei...THE Prototype